Five guys, thirty years, one photo

Five teenagers sat down and posed for a picture at Copco Lake in 1982, they didn't plan on making it a tradition. But that's what it became.

Every five years for the past three decades, John Wardlaw, John Dickson, Mark Rumer, Dallas Burney and John Molony have been meeting at the California lake and taking the same photo.

The first photograph of the high school friends was just happenstance. Wardlaw, known as Wedge in the group, had a family cabin at the lake where the friends gathered in July 1982.

While hanging out on the deck of the cabin, Dickson, or J.D., set his 35-millimeter camera on self-timer to take a group photo. 5 guys vacation pic a huge hit online...

Why do white girls like black men - Guide to Black men

In recent light of Ochocinco and his jumpoff(s) as well as many other silly findings. It leads to the very old question, why do white girls like black guys (or why do people think that). A trip to the mall could show the trend in at least 5% interracial couples, as well as teenage girls in high school and of course it depends on where you live. If you live in the city you will see more than that percentage and if you live in a small conservative area, you will see a very small percentage and perhaps none. So what is this allure and mysterious yearning black men have for white women?

One of the very many things black men think about white girls is that they easy, and don't have too many standards. Black women are seen as a challenge, and often times black men simply want a girl to get a nut off and not have to impress or put on a show, hence Ice T, Ochocinco etc, successful black men going after easier target. Most black men who go after white women don't have to be tall, built, overly good-looking , charismatic etc, they just have a good personality and are usually outgoing...sometimes. Most of the black guys that have great personality that attracts you to them. They tend to keep themselves busy and enjoy the time they have. Most people categorize black people as dangerous, thieves, murders, prostitutes, rapist, monkeys, money hungry, drug dealers and lazy. Black people themselves are just like any other human beings and for there is no problem in a white girl dating a black man.

3 Reasons I want to unfriend my black friends and make other race ones

1. Black people seem to have a uniform mentality .Black boy's thoughts (most times REGARDLESS of education level) : 

" shid man, let's get the bitches yo, lets get high yo, lets fuck yo, oh shitt is Meek Mills new album yo, Damn I need to get a fade son, Yo that bitch thick as fuck, Man im tryna get at that bitch, she bad, Why ain't you hooping with us today mayne, I'm about to hit the gym, Yo it's friday we about to party and get 'crunk', We geekin and getting high as fuck, I'm tryna fuck, The Steelers bout to play yo, Yo the white man is against us, Waddup my nigga, Im bout to get the Air Jordans, Yo the iphone 7 drops today son we catching the bus to get it, Man i need  a job, Yo Im successful I got the bitches 3 rolls royce and a house im paid, My hair so wavy, Shorty I can fuck u right I got a big ass dick, ma name is Dinero/Rozay/Boss/ (instagram, twitter, Facebook etc),  I got polo (for the tad bit more "advanced" it progresses to Gucci/Louis Vuitton [MOST OFTEN misspelled] or Chanel and Coach for the women) errything, swagged out, Iced out s fuck, we wildin', Im a Boss (deepens voice and wears a suit and shirt),

Thats it, nothing else. Nothing creative, nothing lucrative. The "entrepreneurs" are dope boys or hot boys. It's dumb down  all the way. There's no difference. The 'educated' ones just word it out better with more indepth vocabulary, the core ideas are the same. Why? Is it genetic or generational? then again everyone is not a rule.
I can certainly predict a black boy's LIFE CYCLE just by watching him WALK! How simple! Nothing complex about them, thats a sad life.


2. Black Intellectuals DONT like black people. They're the only race which their academicians don't like them. NB: Jesse Jackson and Al Sharpton are NOT black intellectuals, they're just "celebrity" black people.

3. The REAL black people (Africans) don't like 'black'  people either. That's ironic. Irish people seem to jive well with White people.

5 Ways to Make Your Relationship Romantic

Creating magical moments in your relationship is easy and fun. It is something everyone thinks about, but few people do. Perhaps it's because they actually can't think of exactly what to do. Here are five "acts of love" that you can do with and for your partner to bring a little more romance into your relationship.

Four types of people in Life.

A.

The unattractives who break their bodies at the gym and wear all sorts of makeup to feel attractive, most likely found to squint their eyes and/or bite their lips in all their pics, excessively use slangs to sound tough and cool and at the heart of it, are simply loyal followers. They make a great team (most likey to be a part of a Celebrity's posse and always following someone more attractive/popular than them. Wears expensive clothes and colognes for the mage and loves good hair.

                                                                       B

The actually attractive people who don't find it necessary to over show off. More likely interested in speaking as articulately as possible and coming off as intelligient, deep and profound. Difficult to work with as they take cautionary steps towards dealing with people. Know they are attractive and don't see why anyone should pretend like they aren't - sometimes translated as cocky. Group A is always found around this type, calling them their "homies" best friends, etc. Not as socially forward as most people presume, usually have an awkward streak about them. Is always under fire from the envious. Their friends are rarely (as) attractive .

Keep reading for part 2

50 questions to determine if you are “wifey” material.

How does a man test a woman to see if she is the one?

How a man chooses a girlfriend or even advances her up the food chain to the status of fiancé or “wifey” is based upon a series of inner character traits men seek, often unconsciously.  Below is a list of 50 character traits men use to choose the woman of their dreams.

Some qualities come naturally to some women and cannot be obtained or even learned; this makes these qualities extremely valuable and deserving of a maximum score.  These fine points often make the difference in choosing one woman over another.  The wise man considers whether or not the woman comes by these characteristics naturally. Although it is true that some qualities can be developed over time and with maturity, experience teaches a man to accept a woman for who she is right now and not who he hopes her to become later.  He will see that either a woman has these qualities naturally within her, or not.  Even though everyone, if he or she has the desire, has the ability to evolve into a better person, a man can never force a woman to make a change in herself based only on his desire.  For a man, it is wiser to follow the golden rule and either accept a woman as she comes to him or leave her where he met her.

That said, rate yourself first, and then allow your man or perspective love interest to rate you.  Combine the two scores, divide by two and add up the points and see where you fall on the score chart.  Do not share your score with your man until he has finished the test.  Allow him to be open and honest.  Use the results as a positive way to improve yourself, thus improving your relationship.  See the score chart at the end of the article.

Give yourself from one to four points, four being the highest, on each quality listed below:

Sex does NOT equal happiness study proves

An excellent post last week, detailed how afterall, a lot of sex happens to diminish, rather than boost our happiness. The article stated promiscuity is not associated with increased happiness and, in fact, the number of sexual partners needed to maximize happiness is exactly one.

It also put a clarity on the fact that everyone else is having less sex than most times we actually think. Everybody knew Trey Songz, and Drake were not getting that much play, although I think Lil Wayne is an exception to that research. Get this,the median adult American has sex  2 to 3 times a month. Even younger people, under forty, only have sex once a week, on average. Only 7% have sex more than 4 times a month and 18% have none at all. Students have less sex than others of the same age and married people have more.

All that for being single and ready to mingle. If we take the information we have on people’s lives and combine it with a subjective measure on well-being, researchers can make predictions on how sexual behavior influences individual happiness.

Other interesting facts were that younger people are happier in general, but not made any happier by having sex than older people are money may bring you happiness, but it won’t buy you more sex, homosexuals afterall aren't  gay in the literal sense of the word and the big knocker, people with more sexual partners are less happy than those who have just one.

figured id let the ladies have me promiscous

Another big one was that men who use prostitutes are also less happy. That is, promiscuous people are less happy and people who cheat in marriage (10% of the married people in the sample have had sex with more than one person in the previous year) are less happy

The award for most freaky, horny people - are not Americans (Disappointed) but Finland afterall!!! All that cold air gets them worked up and heated. 

Head on there to read more details on the research, kudos to that author, very indepth. 

What a good man needs from a woman

Despite people often saying that all you have to do to please a man is to freak him and feed him, a man; well at least a real man actually needs a little more than that.

Some men do not care if you feed them.. Heck they will cook for you or take your to your favorite restaurant. They have no problem if you never cook a meal.  Every man is different, a woman has to follow his hints to figure him out.

There really is no “how to stop a man from cheating” guide that is guaranteed. But there are some things a woman can do to help strengthen her relationship with her mate and keep her man happy.

These things usually apply to the majority of men.  But,  if you have a no good man at home, you can just stop reading right now. Because it does not matter what you do. He just wants you to do everything – cater to him, treat him like a King and tell him he is the greatest although deep down he knows that he is a piece of shat. But he still requires that you treat him just the opposite.  You can be patient and hold onto the relationship all you want to.  Just know that things will never change and you are wasting your precious time. More than likely nothing will stop him from cheating.

• Top 10 Ways To Attract A Black Man

Now on to the good men.

6 Things That A Good Man Needs From His Woman

1.  R. E. S. P. E. C. T. – Aretha Franklin sang that song so well. “Just A Little BIt’ A little bit of respect and treating a man as a man goes a long way.  I don’t care if you are the CEO of a Fortune 500 Company. When you get home leave your power and aggression at the office. When you get home you are someone’s woman or someone’s wife. You should be in your most feminine form of nature. Talk to him respectfully, trust him and allow him to make decisions. listen to him, be confident in him and please don’t always have to have the last word and act like you know everything, even though you probably do. A man does not want to feel inferior to him woman.   Be attentive to his needs.  You may be tired but this is the life you chose; so your man needs a little pampering, cause his day was hard too.

2. APPRECIATION – For some reason men like to be thanked for everything. Women often times feel like they do not need to thank a man for doing what he is supposed to do anyway.  But contrary to all the lies that are out here. A good man that you actually LIKE and want to be with is hard to find and when you get one YES  he does want to be appreciated for his goodness.  If he buys you a gift and you don’t like it. Don’t let him know. You must be thankful for his efforts.. If you do tell him you don’t like it you have just notified him that making another effort to do something like that again would be pointless because you would not appreciate it.  He also has to feel needed, don’t be so independent that there is nothing that he can do for you. Let him do some things for you.

3. SPACE –  Men need space. I’m not saying let him run loose and give him space like  the Final Frontier of Star Trek but he indeed does need a little space to do his thing. Rather that thing be video games, watching sports, drinks with his friends or time in his private study. Men need these moments of time to regroup and help them enjoy life. It’s like a rechargeable battery for them.. It helps them function better.  So if your man wants to go to the strip club with his buddies don’t get upset. Let him go (as long as he is not the trick of the year and won’t trick off your entire mortgage for the month) Strippers are actually not as easy as you may think they are. Those girls know they are strictly there for entertainment.  Now if he wants to go there all the time and become a regular then yes that is a problem. But every once in a while with his boys should be no big deal.

4. A HOT MEAL – I believe that if a woman is into a man, even if she does not know how to cook her love and appreciation for a good man should guide her to becoming a great cook.  At the least he deserves to be able to come home to a great meal cooked by his honey. There are cookbooks, Google is your best friend and will teach you how to cook anything. All you have to do is type it in the search engine.. If you are busy utilize a crock pot, you can go home and check it on your lunch break.  Feel free to use boxes and cans, everything doesn’t have to be from scratch.  Occasionally surprise him with something new. Learn his favorite dish and get them down precisely. And if you really want to be a badd chick learn some recipes that no other woman in your immediate vicinity will know..  Like a foreign dish or two. Feed that man. Even dogs come home to eat. He must come home to eat. And a good man won’t stray when he knows he has a hot plate of food at home waiting on him.

5. HE DOES NOT WANT TO CHANGE HIMSELF – This is where unconditional love comes into play. A lot of great men’s success comes behind them having a woman that loves them unconditionally. She accepts his good and his bad and takes them both. She is not sitting around patiently and getting upset with his habits waiting on him to change.  One thing about a good man is that he is who he is. Other than a few minor details there will be no changes. He is who he is when you married him. Habits are old and hard to change. 30 Days Make a Habit and after years and years of having one it is hard to change.  If he smokes he probably won’t stop smoking unless he wants to.  If you insist on changing him, you must first change yourself.

6. GREAT SEX – Few men don’t like head and they don’t want their woman doing wild things in the bedroom.  Those are weirdos. We are going to ignore them here.  You should be your man’s personal porn star once you hit the bedroom. You don’t have to get in on the fruity in the booty stuff if you don’t want to. But there is other things that you must learn how to do.

•  Perfect The Blow job -  Don’t you hate when a man goes down on you and doesn’t know what he is going or only stays down for 30 seconds? Well now you know how a man feels about effortless fellatio. A blow job is not a nice and neat job. It is a wet and sloppy  act of gratification.  You should not only learn to like it but you should study videos, and written techniques on how to perfect it. Combine that with listening to your man’s body to see what movements and styles he likes the best. Don’t be afraid to ask him and have him guide you.
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•  Stripper Moves are awesome -  I don’t care if your image is Michelle Obama. You should have some special little outfits, some heels, a wig, an itunes playlist and a few moves to surprise him and seduce him on at least special occasions or as congrats for his achievements. Men should not always have to do all of the work in the bedroom, come out of your shell sometimes and become a seductress. Practice in the mirror, flow with the music and just go with it. Don’t be afraid to be silly. And don’t be shy stripper. Have a glass of wine or two if need be.

These things will increase happiness in a relationnship. Don’t become a homebody and stop wanting to go out and enjoy life. You and your mate should share some activity that you do together outside of the kids. You should have some type of goals in common.   Lastly, don’t get comfortable..     

20 shameful single girl habits you should know

A Player is not someone who gets theirs and leaves a trail of broken hearts. A Player is not someone who jumps from one shallow bed to the next. A Player is that person who lives life like a legend, puts a woman into a passionate romance and works his job like he built the company. This Player, in particular, has covered the globe as a photojournalist. Camera in one hand and laptop in the other; I’ve seen the best and the worst across time zones and international waters. In these travels, the foundations of how to play have been learned.

Our friends at Askmen dish out 20 of the most embarasing single girl habits

The New York Times discovered that single people do really quirky crap when they live alone. Stuff they’d be to embarrassed to do if anyone were watching. But no one is watching. So no one is judging. This allows Shameful Secret Single Behavior to fester and grow and become less appalling to the singleton as the years roll by. We can’t believe this. As single ladies, who have lived alone for long stretches of time, we are absolutely and thoroughly shocked to hear this. We have never done anything weird, all alone in our apartments while no one was watching, like sing Michael Jackson songs to our plants or strut around in a uniform of dirty hospital scrubs tucked into fuzzy socks. We jest. In fact, we feel fairly confident that we are the Queens of Single Quirk. But we’re not ashamed. No we are not. We’re proud, dammit. Here are our single behavior confessions.

1. Playing Tetris on the iPhone while watching The Real Housewives on TV

Obviously, this is about conflict resolution. The Real Housewives marathon is the conflict. The Tetris marathon is the resolution.

2. Making salad in a giant wooden bowl and using the bowl both for prep and eating to avoid washing an extra dish

It might look stupid. But the two minutes saved on washing extra dishes is worth it.

3. Rinsing dishes instead of using actual soap 

Speaking of dish doing… soap is overrated when you’re the only person who uses your dishes. Bask in your own germs.

4. Same for hand washing after using the bathroom. Waste of hand soap!

5. Eating straight out of the fridge or in bed with the laptop 

If you’ve recently wiped down your regular eating area, it’s dumb to get it dirty by taking yet another meal there… alone. Skip the kitchen and go straight from fridge to bed.

6. Drinking straight from the bottle

Drink Diet Coke straight from the plastic liter. Wine straight from the bottle. Milk straight from the carton.

7. Smushing the trash down further, to fit more garbage in, instead of taking it out

It doesn’t matter if your apartment smells like rotting spinach if you’re the only one who has to smell it. A candle or some room spray will cover that shit right up and you’ll live another day without having to go down four flights of stairs to the dumpster.

8. Spilling something on the counter and brushing it onto the floor

Coffee grinds, cereal crumbs, pistachio shells, all of it belongs on the kitchen floor where it blends into the ugly linoleum and gets stuck to the bottom of your fuzzy socks.

9. Wearing the same pair of socks multiple times

And even if the bottoms of those fuzzy socks are covered in coffee grounds, you can put off washing them for a while. A long while.

10. Using a towel for a really long time without washing it

Same goes for that face towel you’ve been using in the bathroom. You can flip it up to four times before every surface is covered in your mascara.

11. Boogers don’t really need to go in tissues

Boogers also can be wiped on walls, under beds, in the carpet. Boogers also like to be flicked. But don’t eat boogers. That’s truly gross.

12. Waiting to buy TP...

Until you’ve used every scrap of paper towel and napkin in the house. Boogers especially don’t go in tissues if you’ve been putting off your toilet paper run for a while. Because tissues are the same as toilet paper. Duh.

13. Leaving clumps of hair in the hairbrush

 As long at the bristles still run through your hair, you’re in business, Betty.

14. Taking a hell of a lot longer to wash period blood stained sheets than we care to admit

But, what the hell? We’re admitting it now. There is something comforting about sleeping in one’s own period stain. Reminds you that you’re still fertile, even if no one is “tapping that.”

15. Eating potato chips and onion dip for dinner

Tastes better if eaten at the fridge or in the bed with the laptop. We recommend following that up with pretzels dipped in peanut butter and Nutella for dessert. An entire meal without dishes!

16. Sleeping with a teddy bear
His name is Ralph. So what?

17. Cupping our bare breasts or vagina while watching TV

It just feels right.

18. Eating two dinners because the first one wasn’t very good so it didn’t really count

This will be highly unlikely if you ate potato chips and onion dip for dinner. That shit is satisfying.

19. Taking MySpace-style self portraits in the bathroom mirror

It’s important to commemorate these special single moments. Like celebrating an entire day of not using dishes or utensils. Or beating your own Tetris high score while watching The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills reunion special.

20. Listening to the same song on loop for five to six days in a row

And it doesn’t matter if it’s something uncool like Soul II Soul’s “Back to Life.” Your plants won’t mind one bit.

The 10 Commandments of Casual Sex

Max from Love & War brings 10 Rules for Casual Sex. 

As you guys know, I’m a big fan of casual sex. Not necessarily for me personally, but as a concept. Just had to make that clear. But what you might not know about me is that I am also a big fan of order and decorum. I believe that every situation is improved when everyone goes into it with a little bit of behaviour and respects the rules. But of course when hormones get involved everyone wants to get buck wild and just act any any all how (as my mum would say) and that’s how no-strings sex turns into a shit show.

So just as God had to step in and give the Israelites some instructions on how to conduct themselves, so must I tell you the proper way to behave in your jump off type relationships. So every Wednesday for the next 10 weeks I’ll bring you the 10 Commandments of Casual Sex. If you have suggestions for what the commandments should be, please send them to me via the contact link at the top right of the page,  because of course you know I haven’t written them all yet.

In the meantime, let’s get to the first commandment.

Commandment #1: Thou Shall Not Find Yourself Accidentally Exclusive

This is a common plight of the single woman. See, contrary to what certain male commenters of this site would have you believe, it’s not that easy for a woman to find a man with whom she can have great, bullshit free sex. So once she finds him, she makes it her business to repeat the experience as often as she can. Mr. Bullshit-free moves to the top of her iphone favourites list and that’s where she’s looking first when she starts to get that special feeling.

Sure there are other contenders vying for the opportunity to wax that ass, but most of them are coming at her with bullshit like flopping the show, half-stepping their way through sex, vanishing without a trace for long periods of time, shit like that. And while under normal circumstances she may be willing to endure a bit of bullshit if the end result is her getting her parts oiled, if she compares these dudes to Mr. No Bullshit, they fall way short. So of course she keeps going back to the good good and of course the more you fuck someone the better it gets, and next thing you know she’s having epic sex and tongue-tying orgasms on a regular basis with a man who behaves decently toward her.

This sounds like the holy grail of casual sex, doesn’t it? She’s getting fucked on a regular, the shit is amazing and it’s not even annoying. What more can a gal ask for?

The problem is though that while she’s been seeking out Mr. Sans Bullshit early and often, all the other contenders have drifted off. But she’s not worried about it because she has all the dick she needs in one place. Until the time comes when she wants to play and her favourite toy is not in the box and as she starts digging around for alternate sources of amusement she realizes the toy chest is empty. Now she’s frantically searching for something to entertain her and finds nothing. And then she’s mad.

What she forgot is that the essential nature of casual sex is its no obligation nature. At any moment in time a fuck buddy can wife another girl down, leave the country, turn gay contract an STD, or just get tired of fucking you and he’s under no obligation to tell you that it happened. So it’s not until you’re lying in bed with a throbbing pussy looking for someone to come over and stretch out your walls and drawing back a nub that you realize your number one primo source for cock has been shut down like your favourite store in Pacific Mall. Now she has to go on a scouting trip to the bush leagues to find a contender she can promote to the majors, and then she has to spend even more time training him until he can swing his bat like the last guy did.

The number one commandment of casual sex is never put all your nuts in one basket. You must diversify. I’m not suggesting that you take a different cock every day of the week, but if you have a favourite, you must also have at least one back up. You might not be giving the alternate dude pussy, but you have to give him something to make sure he doesn’t forget about you and, more importantly, to ensure he remains available to service you when your main dude is not readily available. Otherwise you will find yourself in a shitty situation like being 9 days away from your birthday with no available source for birthday ass, just to give you a random example.

So that’s the first commandment on my list, what do you guys think? Have you ever found yourself exclusively fucking someone you’re not in a relationship with? Have you been left high and dry by them? Speak on it in the comments.

Will and Jada smith declare open relationship.

It seems celebrity couples divorce as often and quickly as they marry. Must be the natural order of things in Hollywood. Usually we get a bit of warning before it officially goes down—an accusation of infidelity, red carpet absences, suspect quotes but this one is a shocker. (Not really.) The industry veterans know how to lock it up. And by "veterans" I mean the creepy super-moneyed scientologists.

Luckily, the crafty sleuths over at In Touch Weekly have gotten to the bottom of it or have they? While ITW reports that Will Smith and Jada Pinkett Smith are separating after 13 years of marriage their reps have officially stated they will not. Hmmm...

Whether the news is true or not it really makes you wonder if anyone stays together anymore or more specifically if marriage really is the best lifestyle choice. More and more of my friends are opting out of marriage in favor of partnerships. They are "married" for all intents and purposes just not by law. They have children and go on with their lives together, some outlasting the lawfully married couples.
I had a wonderful relationship once with a man who told me he did not believe in marriage and was not sure if he wanted children. My response? "Don't ever say that to me again. It's not sexy."
But maybe he's onto something here? Will Smith told Ellen Degeneres(which is like telling God a.k.a the new Oprah) that divorce was simply not an option. "What I found is divorce just can't be an option. It's merely that simple. And I think that's the problem with L.A. There are so many options. So a huge part of the success for Jada and I is that we just removed the other options."
If the marriage truly does eventually fail, do we say "I told you so" take thisget out of jail free card and run? Why make such an antiquated commitment when by all accounts they hardly (or never) work? 50% of American marriages end in divorce.

You tell me. I am a believer in marriage because I am a believer in family. Choosing to marry is to invite a partner to build a family. So, in my opinion, you should only marry when you are ready to h
ave children together.
The bottom line is neither marriage or procreation will guarantee success in your relationship. It won't even help. It will test it. And chances are it won't last forever but you know what? Maybe it will.
If marriage is what you want, you cannot be too afraid of failure to try. Because that is a failure in and of itself, isn't it?

5 Ways to Calm Down an Angry Woman

Next time your little honeybee turns mad as a hornet, here's how to stop the buzzing before her fire turns to fight. You've already tried pretending to be invisible, right? How'd that work? 

Here are 5 helpful tips to calm your woman down when she starts . Courtesy: MensHealth mag